Atkins Diet: How should spouses / partners support weight loss activities?
Additional contact methods:Twitter: bowulfBlog: http://... or Skype: Contact Me FirstUstream - http://... notes:http://... support?* the obvious answer is because you love them* however there is "something in it for you" as wello a friend/spouse/partner with more energyo a friend/spouse/partner potentially happiero a friend/spouse/partner who is healthier and may go to the doctor less ofteno a friend/spouse/partner who may want to engage in more activities with youExamples of how to be supportive:* Support their Food Choiceo Asking which foods they would like purchased or NOT purchasedo if you share the cooking duties, learn how to cook their plan* Allowing time for exercise session and reasonably accommodating ito If it takes taking on additional responsibilities (cooking, laundry, taking care of the children alone, grocery shopping), do ito the time you give for success should reap you rewards* Being interested but not intrusive on progress or the plano you are not the weight loss policeo don't make the weight loss the only focus of the relationshipo don't routinely ask "how much weight have you lost today?" -- rely on them to tell you* Understand the emotional side of weight loss - I've talked about this in my emotional or psychological aspects of weight loss videoo Theirs -- perhaps more irritable, more tired, grouchy, depression, or really happy -- in the words of Red Hot Chili Pepper, it's a "Rollercoaster of Love"o Yours- envy (focus elsewhere or of their success), feelings of loss (loss of old lifestyle or routines)* Be an exampleo eat the right foods yourselfo exercise - either together or by yourselfo don't challenge them verbally with your example (like I said in my intro, be a silent example)* Ultimate Don'tso nag - you should not ask "should you really eat that?"o criticize - their body image or even potentially their manner of weight losso tempt - don't offer them something that is not on their plan or say only one bite shouldn't hurt youo get jealous - as your spouse loses the weight, they may get additional attention.+ Be aware that at their core, they remain the same person you married.+ trust them+ don't feel challenged by the weight losso make fun activities - weight loss activities (time together should not only be workout sessions -- sometimes biking or walking together can just be that)* Finally, remember their success or failure ultimately is a personal thing.o You can not make them succeed or fail.o You can however set the stage for that success or failure. It is up to them to carry it through.o The success is theirs alone.
Thank you for making this video. I learned alot of what my spouce went through with my weightloss and how to help him with his this year.
bowulf(January 7, 2009 at 5:10 am)
Thanks. I really had a good example on what to do and model myself after, so I am glad I could communicate it on to others.
Elizabeth01010101(January 7, 2009 at 4:33 am)
Hey good stuff! I like your "don'ts." I learned some new info from this!
epeya2(January 5, 2009 at 6:27 pm)
Thank you for posting such a wonderful video, I played it for my husband with speaker blaring.. all he could gleam from it is that I MUST be frustrated. I realize now you get support where you can and ignore the people and events that become obsticles in my path to a healthier lifestyle.
bowulf(January 5, 2009 at 4:35 am)
Happy New Year to you! This is a topic that I had such a great role model of support in my wife, and I am trying to be one to my kids. Thanks for noticing the passion, and I want to wish you a great 2009!The good news about the holidays is you know exactly how to address the problem and already have the recipe. You can do this!
jade67231(January 4, 2009 at 3:29 am)
I can sense your passion here. Kent thanks for the insight on this. My family&friends are really supportive and try to offer good options for me when..lets say.. a party comes up. Now..co-workers are the diet police for some reason ! LOL I just ignore them and keep going on for myself. ! Happy New Year ! I gained like 10 pounds over the holidays..I need to go back to Induction and get serious. I actaully miss eating low carb. That is a good sign. :) God Bless ya Amy
bowulf(January 2, 2009 at 4:14 pm)
You are very welcome. I know from personal experience just how great that support can be, and unfortunately from my own actions how wrong it can be directed too. Just trying prevent others from making the same mistakes I have done or heard others making in the past.Here's to 2009 being a very successful year!
marcybanks(January 2, 2009 at 3:34 pm)
Thank you so much for this... this is so helpful. You touch on the real aspects of weightloss and how it affects not just the person but the other people in their lives..Just terrific work. God bless in 2009. Please keep doing this. I totally rely on your vids to keep me on track
bowulf(January 2, 2009 at 1:42 am)
That was what I was thinking. How do I get this video in front of those that really need to see it? Most of the time it is the weight loss person themselves browsing for videos, so I hope it does indeed reach those spouses or friends.Thanks for watching!
playboysgirl08(January 2, 2009 at 1:01 am)
This is a great video, NOT just for Atkins, but for weight loss of any kind including surgery!Thanks so much for playing this! We should show all of our spouses this vid!
bowulf(January 1, 2009 at 8:35 pm)
Then it's a good thing I changed it to Ustream. The link is in the video notes or in the twitter stream from earlier today.
Nicsaprincess(January 1, 2009 at 8:24 pm)
Stikam make's my PC Shut Down:/Jimmy More used Skype to record his Pod-Cast's, and I think they come out great!!
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